Self-esteem is a term for how we think about ourselves and how we believe we are perceived by the world around us. It can impact our decision-making processes, interpersonal relationships, emotional and mental health, and overall sense of well-being. A healthy level of self-esteem is an essential part of living a happy, healthy, and successful life. 

Signs of Low Self Esteem

Low self-esteem is highly correlated with a wide variety of mental health conditions including anxiety, depression, substance use, eating disorders, and suicidal ideation. It is important to recognize signs of low self-esteem and proactively work toward building better coping skills, affirmative self-talk, and a sense of resiliency in order to avoid the negative effects associated with poor personal regard. Some of the most common signs of low self-esteem include:

• Sensitivity to criticism

• Lack of boundaries

• Apologizing excessively

• Negative social comparison

• Difficulty with decision-making

• Being a people-pleaser

• Avoiding compliments

• Worry and doubt

• External locus of control

How Therapy Can Help

Treatment for low self-esteem is not a one-size-fits-all approach. There are many interventions that may help with uncovering underlying causes, reframing core beliefs, and improving overall quality of life. A comprehensive treatment plan for low self-esteem may include one or more of the following interventions.

• Therapy: Talk therapy can be an important space for individuals with low self-esteem to learn how to navigate feelings, learn healthy coping mechanisms, and work through cognitive distortions. Some common therapeutic modalities include cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), narrative therapy, and compassion-focused therapy.

• Medication: While there are no medications to treat low self-esteem, medication can be a pivotal component of treatment for any co-occurring mental health conditions, such as anxiety and depression. Some commonly prescribed medications for anxiety and depression include selective-serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and serotonin and norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs).

• Lifestyle changes: As with most mental and physical health challenges, implementing healthy lifestyle habits can improve symptoms and overall well being for individuals trying to build their self-esteem. Examples of healthy habits include a regular sleep schedule, balanced eating, regular exercise, and meditation practices.

When should I see a professional?

If you and a loved one may be struggling with low self esteem, it may be beneficial to consult a mental health professional, such as a therapist or psychiatric nurse practitioner. At Tree of Life Counseling Center in Princeton and Freehold, NJ, we have an experienced team of 50+ clinicians to help support you through whatever you may be facing. Schedule an appointment today by calling 732-393-8391 or filling out an online form at https://www.treeoflifecc.org/start-today